When a Woman Cannot be Trusted

Let us speak the truth clearly. Many men did not fall because they lacked calling. They did not fail because they lacked anointing or fire. They fell because they were joined to women who could not be trusted. A man can carry the presence of God, walk in divine purpose, and be helped by angels, but if he is connected to a woman whose heart is divided or rebellious, his life and assignment can be ruined. His journey can be shortened, and his voice silenced forever.

Have you ever wondered why a man discipled by our very father of faith ended up in bed with his two daughters? How did Lot fail so miserably? His uncle interceded for him. God sent angels to rescue him, his wife, and their two daughters. They were pulled out of Sodom, yet his wife—whatever her name was—could not be trusted. She had no regard for her husband, no regard for her daughters, and certainly no regard for the grace of God that was extended to her and her household. Her body was leaving Sodom, but her heart never did.

With her husband and daughters beside her, with angels physically leading them out of a city marked for destruction, what was there to look back to? Her heart was never with her husband. She could not be trusted. She became a pillar of salt—frozen, lifeless, useless, and eventually washed away by the rain. Her affections remained with what God had already judged and destroyed. My dear sister, where is your heart? If you indeed love your husband so much, why is your heart somewhere else?

Samson failed and fell so hard because he was joined to a woman who could not be trusted. Delilah was a setup. Despite the anointing he carried and the power of God upon him, he was nothing more than a commodity to her. She traded him for money, shaved off his strength, and delivered him to his enemies. A great man feared by nations ended in chains because he was connected to a woman who could not be trusted.

That is what happens when a woman who should protect her husband partners with hell to destroy him. Time would fail me to mention great men of God I know personally who ended up with life-threatening diseases that had no connection to their roots—simply because they connected with women who could not be trusted. I know men who developed high blood pressure, stroke, and complete paralysis. Not from a health crisis, but because their supposed helper became the door through which hell gained access to silence their voice.

The greatness in David would have been crushed by his first wife, Michal. At David’s attempt to bring back the ark of God, he was so overjoyed that he danced with all his might to honor God. Yet the first wife of the man after God’s own heart sat at her window, refused to be involved, and despised her husband in her heart.

“And as the ark of the Lord came into the city of David, Michal Saul’s daughter looked through a window, and saw King David leaping and dancing before the Lord; and she despised him in her heart” (2 Samuel 6:16).

Oh, this woman was never to be trusted. Do you know she was given to David with the intention of causing his downfall? She was a Greek gift to David, a gift packaged to ensnare and destroy him.

“Saul thought, ‘I will give her to him, so that she may be a snare to him’” (1 Samuel 18:21).

So a woman can be packaged and presented to a great man of God with the intention to destroy and damage him? Absolutely. She was a snare. She could not be trusted. She didn’t just despise David inwardly; she went a step further and confronted him with contempt when he returned home.

“Then Michal the daughter of Saul came out to meet David, and said, ‘How glorious was the king of Israel today, who uncovered himself today in the eyes of the handmaids of his servants, as one of the vain fellows shamelessly uncovereth himself’” (2 Samuel 6:20).

She was such a classy lady—a diva, a societal woman raised in the palace with a silver spoon in her mouth. He