Help him trust your voice, opinions, advise and discernment

I’ve seen far too many men struggle with the voices, plans, opinions, and judgments of their wives. Why? Because the women have not helped their husbands to trust their voices, planning, their opinions, or their sense of judgment. Many of such men have suffered terrible losses in business, family, investments, and ministry because of the unwise suggestions, impulsive plans, and self-motivated judgments of their wives. When a wife does not operate with sound wisdom, she becomes a stumbling block rather than a helpmeet.

Dreams have died. Families have broken. Ministries have been destroyed, not because the wife didn’t have a plan, but because the plan wasn’t a godly one. She brought opinions that were not stirred by the Spirit. I have seen women whose advice destroyed the good and powerful work that God began in their husbands’ lives and  I have heard such men say, “I will never trust a woman’s advice again.” Oh wao.

These  were men on their way to greatness. God was investing heavily in them. But it all ended, not because of witches, not because of demons, but because their wives urged them in the wrong direction. They pushed them to do what was wrong. They pressured them to fulfill desires that were clearly selfish, clearly destructive, and even when they saw that their husbands were heading toward a ditch, they never raised an alarm. Why? Selfishness, greed, self-ambition,  Pride and Covetousness. These things blinded them. And so their advice became foolish, their judgment became flawed, and their voices and opinions became a burden.

I have seen women pull their husbands out of godly service because they wanted to be the wife of a founder, the first lady of a ministry, the woman of the brand. They would pressure their husbands, “You see, you’ve got the anointing. You’ve got the word. You’ve got the prophetic. You have healing in your hands. Why are you helping someone else build their ministry? Go start your own work. Start your own church. Start your own business. Start your own thing so we can rise and shine. Let’s enjoy our own fame. Let’s make our own name.” I’ve seen women pressure their husbands to disconnect from their own families over petty issues, dislikes, or preferences. I’ve seen women, by reason of their planning, opinions, and secret scheming, destroy powerful business partnerships that had the potential to go global, all because she wanted her husband to be CEO so all the profit could be theirs alone. She wanted breakfast in Dubai, lunch in London, and dinner in Tokyo.

What happened to those men? Many ended up like Ahab, broken, sorrowful, bitter, and full of regret. And many have vowed in their hearts never to trust a woman’s advice again.

At some point, the prophets of Baal — those on Jezebel’s payroll — surrounded Ahab. These were the same kinds of prophets she had fought Elijah over. Remember how she chased Elijah after the prophets of Baal were destroyed in chapter 18? Now here she was again, having assembled yet another set of 400 prophets. How does one woman keep gathering prophets like that? And they were all speaking with one voice. They urged Ahab to go to war. He went and never retuned. 

1 Kings 22:6–7 says:
“Then the king of Israel gathered the prophets together, about four hundred men, and said to them, ‘Shall I go against Ramoth Gilead to battle, or shall I forbear?’ And they said, ‘Go up; for the Lord shall deliver it into the hand of the king.’ 

I have seen women today who are in connection with all kinds of prophets. They move from YouTube to YouTube, channel to channel, conference to conference, seeking a prophetic word. They have multiple voices speaking into their lives, confusing them, and confusing their husbands. The man is now led by fear, no longer able to lead his own home. He’s told not to travel for business because a prophet from Ghana saw a coffin. He’s warned to stop talking to his mother becau