Help Him Trust Your Request

Dear Sister, help your husband trust your request. Be the kind of woman whose words are not scattered, but carry weight. When you ask, let your request be rare, reasonable, and rooted in wisdom. Let him say, “My wife hardly asks for anything, so when she does, I know it matters.” But when your requests are constant, impulsive, and filled with pressure, peace begins to disappear.

Some women don’t stop asking. From Shein to Temu, Sephora to Zalando, it’s wigs today, shoes tomorrow, lashes next week. Some have over 100 shoes and 25 wigs — and are still requesting more. The man is under pressure. He borrows just to keep peace. Not because he can afford it, but because your requests have become a storm. That is not marriage. That is torment.

Let’s go back to Scripture. Rachel made a request to Jacob in Genesis 30:1-2: “Give me children or I die!” That was a desperate request born out of envy. She asked her husband to give what only God could give — and it provoked him to anger. Be careful. Some requests are unfair and spiritually dangerous.

Delilah made a deadly request. She pushed Samson again and again until he gave her the secret of his strength. That request broke him. Some women are still making that kind of request today — the kind that weakens a man, strips his honour, and crushes his purpose.

Sarai made a short-sighted request in Genesis 16. She told Abraham to sleep with her maid. That one request brought Ishmael and a problem that still exists today. What she celebrated in one moment, she rejected later. That’s what happens when a woman makes requests from impatience, not from God.

Job’s wife made a terrible request — “Curse God and die.” She spoke out of bitterness, but her request was still deadly. Not every man has the strength Job had.

And Herodias? She had one chance before the king. One moment to ask for anything — and her request was the head of John the Baptist. A prophet lost his life because of one evil request.

So I ask again: what kind of requests are you making?
To stop talking to his mother?
To resign from his job because you’re insecure?
To leave the church because someone didn’t greet you?
To borrow for a party just to trend online?

Let your requests carry grace. Let them carry wisdom. Let them push your husband closer to purpose, not pressure him into sin. Proverbs 19:14 says, “A prudent wife is from the Lord.” Be that woman. Let your husband breathe when you speak. Let him trust your requests.