The nature of God that strengthens marriage - Graciousness

Exodus 34:6“And the Lord passed by before him, and proclaimed, The Lord, The Lord God, merciful and gracious, longsuffering, and abundant in goodness and truth.”

Grace is unmerited favor. It is the release of divine goodness where it is not deserved. It is the heart of God choosing to bless rather than condemn, to forgive rather than retaliate, to do good even when every human reason says not to. Grace is the supernatural power that enables you to bless when you are bruised, to serve when you are misunderstood, and to love when you are wounded.

A marriage that mirrors God must flow in grace. Many homes are not destroyed because love is missing but because graciousness is absent. Some marriages have become like a marketplace. “You do for me, I do for you. You offend me, I withdraw from you. You fail me, I punish you.” This is not grace; it is the law of exchange, and it kills the fragrance of love.

Grace says, “Even when you fail me, I will still reflect the goodness of God toward you.” Grace does not deny wrong, but it refuses to let wrong rule. Grace breaks the power of offense. Grace disarms revenge. Grace opens the door for healing to begin.

But grace must be rightly understood.“What shall we say then? Shall we continue in sin, that grace may abound? God forbid.” (Romans 6:1–2)
Grace without truth becomes deception. Grace without discernment becomes destruction. Grace is not stupidity, nor is it permission for sin. True grace forgives, but it also calls for repentance. Grace will stretch to restore, but it will not become a doormat for destruction.

Even Jesus, full of grace and truth, never compromised one for the other.“For the law was given by Moses, but grace and truth came by Jesus Christ.” (John 1:17). Grace and truth must walk together. Any grace that separates from truth becomes false mercy.

Titus 2:11–12 says, “For the grace of God that bringeth salvation hath appeared to all men, teaching us that, denying ungodliness and worldly lusts, we should live soberly, righteously, and godly, in this present world.”

Grace restores, but it never rewards evil. Grace forgives, but it demands change. Grace holds the door open, but it does not invite repeated injury. That is grace and the law of divine balance.
This is the divine order. When a husband is gracious, he covers his wife with safety. When a wife is gracious, she crowns her husband with peace. When both walk in grace, their home becomes a dwelling place of divine favor.

For the singles: if you are yet to marry, listen well. This is not the time to choose a man because of his six-pack or a woman because of her beauty. Look for grace. Look for the visible manifestation of the nature of God. Is he gracious in speech? Is she gracious in character? Do his words minister peace or pride? Does her presence carry grace or provoke arrogance?

The scripture says, “Let your speech be always with grace, seasoned with salt, that ye may know how ye ought to answer every man.” (Colossians 4:6)
If grace is not visible in their words, their actions, and their daily walk, do not bind your destiny to them. Beauty fades, charm deceives, but graciousness endures.

Before you seek a gracious partner, ask yourself — are you gracious? Do you carry the fragrance of divine kindness? Do your words heal or harm? Are your reactions led by the Spirit or by self? Grace is not just what you receive; it is what you become.

Grace and the law of divine balance will make every relationship fruitful and make your marriage a reflection of heaven on earth.